Today, March 28, our card will be:
Boundaries
We’ve basically been leading up to this card all month by becoming more mindful of our selves and what brings us balance. Setting boundaries isn’t just about saying no when you’re asked for more than you can do or give. That’s part of it, but it’s mostly about teaching others how they should treat you.
Many of us have people in our lives who don’t respect or understand boundaries. They ask for more than we can give and when they hear no, they take it as a sign to ask again, and again until they finally break through and get that yes. Or, if we stick to the no, they turn around and accuse us of being selfish. Of letting them down. Of not being a good person.
The problem is, we often internalize their judgements and, as a result, lower our boundaries even more. This is not healthy. It’s a sign that we have great sympathy and empathy, which are not bad thing unless we don’t apply them to ourselves in the same way we apply them to others. We are our own worst judges most of the time.
Worse, we blame others for our lack of boundaries. We tell ourselves that they won’t respect them anyway, when truly, the only way they get past them is if we take them down. I’m not advocating selfishness. I’m not advocating that you put up a wall and never let anyone in, or that you never be vulnerable. I’m only suggesting that you be clear with yourself on where your boundaries should lie and then stick to them.
Judge yourself less harshly today and teach people how you should be treated.
Companion stone is obsidion